Suffering in Life is Caused Not By The Actual Event or Illness but By The Resistance to What Is.In Eastern philosophy one can find teachings that say that suffering in life is caused not by the actual event or illness but by the resistance to what is. This wisdom aligns with what Victor Frankl learned in the concentration camps. The …
Is Your Relationship Suffering From Lack of Time
Is your relationship suffering from a lack of attention? A lack of time? How about using the time you have differently?Many people take their relationships for granted. Most couples are so busy with work and family responsibilities that they don’t feel they have any more time for their relationship. When they come together at the end of the day, they …
Recovery From Affairs
Affairs happen to good people. Life is messy.Both spouses together created the disequilibrium in the marriage that made the marriage vulnerable to the affair. The betrayed partner is never to blame for the affair. Gottman talks about a 22 step cascade towards betrayal ( Gottman Rusbult-Glass). This is a series of small steps where the spouse turns away from the partner. Communication …
Emotional Storm in Relationship
You are in survival mode and ready to protect yourself.Relationship IssuesFlooding is an emotional storm that happens in relationships when your partner triggers a primal feeling of danger. The arrival of these storms is often a surprise to one or both partners. When your perceptions are dangerously alarmed, you flood with a mix of powerful emotions. The sympathetic nervous system …
Grief Is Different Than Depression
When you have a loss, you grieve.Differences between Depression and GriefGrief is different for everyone and there is no right way to grieve and no appropriate time frame. Grief is often associated with loss of an important person in your life but you can also grieve for anyone with whom you have had a connection – a friend, a pet, …