Recovery From Affairs

Peg Walsh APRNDepression, Therapy Blog

Affairs happen to good people. Life is messy.Both spouses together created the disequilibrium in the marriage that made the marriage vulnerable to the affair. The betrayed partner is never to blame for the affair. Gottman talks about a 22 step cascade towards betrayal ( Gottman Rusbult-Glass). This is a series of small steps where the spouse turns away from the partner. Communication …

The 5 Love Language

Peg Walsh APRNTherapy Blog

The Secret to Love That Lasts“The 5 Love Languages, The Secret to Love” That Lasts is a great little book that makes the case that feeling and knowing that one is loved depends on our partner’s ability to speak our love language. It is truly possible to be deeply loved but not to feel loved. Certain actions are much more …

The Gottman Method

Peg Walsh APRNTherapy Blog

40 Years of Studies and Practice Bring Couples CloserPeg Walsh employs the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy. She is listed on the Gottman Referral Network.This way of working with couples is dyadic, meaning that much of the therapy occurs in conversations between the couple. These conversations are structured and coached by the therapist. The goal is to help partners increase their …

A COUPLE HAS A RIGHT TO EXPECT THE THERAPIST WILL NOT CHOOSE SIDES

Peg Walsh APRNTherapy Blog

THERAPIST SHOULD NOT CHOOSE SIDESRecently I have had several couples come to see me after seeing other therapists. They were looking for someone who would not harshly judge one partner. Initially, when some couples come to therapy they do indeed want the therapist to validate them and to tell their partner that they are wrong. They want the therapist to …

Emotional Storm in Relationship

Peg Walsh APRNDepression, Grief, Mental Health, Therapy Blog

You are in survival mode and ready to protect yourself.Relationship IssuesFlooding is an emotional storm that happens in relationships when your partner triggers a primal feeling of danger. The arrival of these storms is often a surprise to one or both partners. When your perceptions are dangerously alarmed, you flood with a mix of powerful emotions. The sympathetic nervous system …

Grief Is Different Than Depression

Peg Walsh APRNDepression, Grief, Mental Health, Therapy Blog

When you have a loss, you grieve.Differences between Depression and GriefGrief is different for everyone and there is no right way to grieve and no appropriate time frame. Grief is often associated with loss of an important person in your life but you can also grieve for anyone with whom you have had a connection – a friend, a pet, …

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How To Find A Good Man / How To Find A Good Woman

Peg Walsh APRNTherapy Blog

First of all, give up any story that you’re telling yourself that finding a lover/partner/companion will not happen for you. People immobilize themselves by telling themselves negative stories that they are too old, too fat, too boring, too etc.. They tell themselves they are unlovable because of some very real events that have crushed their confidence in new possibilities or …